Just Let Go
You know the saying 'never let go of something you can't go a day without thinking about'?
How many of us are living our lives by that motto? How many of us don't know when to say enough is enough?
I most often hear people quote that motto when referring to a love interest, but what about just a regular friendship? Should we keep holding onto something that's disintegrating or even completely gone on one end?
Recently I wrote about the rise and fall of one of the most important friendships of my life. But, like most people, I just can't seem to let go of what we don't have anymore.
I know there's no point in sending him a text every now and then just to say hi. I know he won't respond. But does that stop me? No.
Take today, for instance. I saw his latest facebook status and short of copy and pasting it word-for-word... it was pretty bleak. Naturally, my first instinct was to shoot him a text asking if he's ok. No response.
Why do I keep getting my hopes up?
Why can't I make that final cut, remove all temptation to keep trying?
Just because I can't stop thinking about what used to be our friendship, doesn't mean I should continue to hold onto it. Right?
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Somehow I missed that post. What you needed was someone who was equally as willing to get totally lost in you, while at the same time encouraging each other to continue to develop a self identity. Now that's love.
ReplyDeleteI needed some additional blog stuff to make my post today and now I have it. (Non-personal info)
Crap, forgot to actually respond on topic. I think your problem lies in the fact that you did get so lost that you're having a hard time pulling yourself away.
ReplyDeleteDelete his number from your head and your phone to keep from texting. Hell, delete him from facebook so you don't see anything from him. You need to put yourself into a vacuum when it comes to him.
I know what I need to do. Actually doing it is another story.
ReplyDelete*Hugs*
ReplyDeleteI know it's hard to let go of the friendship you had. You may not be ready now but in a while, you will be able to let go completely.
Friendship advice is not my particular forte. I have a bad problem with them pissing me off and then we get into fights and that's it- no more friends. But it doesn't bother me. I guess I've conditioned myself to be used to it. But you're sensitive, and that's why you're awesome.
ReplyDeleteI dunno. I just hope you can get over it, and move on. You'll be better for it in the end.
Well if you know what to do, then do it.
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