This Thing Called Love
We all know somebody, or maybe a bunch of somebodies, who flit from relationship to relationship, with each new person being remarkably different from the old. And in each of these foiled attempts, that somebody always ends up shaking his or her head and saying, "I don't know why I ever thought we would work."
I was never that way when it came to relationships. In fact, I spent more time single than in one, but it was never a big deal to me. You see, I knew what I wanted out of a relationship, out of life. I didn't need to try out different types of guys one after the other until I found one that fit.
I've talked before about how I met my fiance and fell head over heels in love with him, but it never would have happened if I didn't know who I am on my own.
I knew that meeting someone while going out wasn't likely to happen, so I joined an online dating site. There are lots to choose from - you've seen the commercials for the bigger ones like Match, EHarmony or Chemistry. At the recommendation of a friend, I decided to try a smaller site that doesn't charge a membership fee, but it still came with an in-depth questionnaire to help determine what you really want in a relationship.
Knowing who you are is important, probably the most important thing you can ever accomplish in life. At the very least, it's important to know who you are before you try to be with someone else.
Just because you don't want to spend the rest of your life alone doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to do just that. Having a strong sense of who you are and being confident in your abilities to stand on your own two feet without another person to lean on will only make you that much more attractive.
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I wholeheartedly agree with the last paragraph. The best advice I ever got was from the (drunk) best man in my best friend's wedding. He said, "Look, you're never going to be happy with anyone until you're happy with yourself." :)
ReplyDeleteNeedy, clingy and desperate are not traits that most people find attractive. Singles have radar for those things and move away from them. Confidence, independence and personal power are qualities that most people find attractive when tempered with accessibility.
ReplyDeleteHe said, "Look, you're never going to be happy with anyone until you're happy with yourself." :)Nice sharing,this is really informative,nice history. Really impressive.Thanks
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