Becoming a mom is simultaneously the most rewarding and most difficult thing I’ve done in my life. It’s an all-consuming job, no matter your situation, and it’s so easy to lose yourself to mom burnout. I feel like that was the part I was the most unprepared for, and if I could go back and give my new-mom self some words of wisdom, it would be these:

Take a real shower, brush your hair (even if it does end up in a messy bun), and put on real clothes. Getting ready for the day will make a huge difference in your mood.

Know who your village is, and don’t be afraid to call them for help while you adjust to your new family dynamic.

Trust your instincts. When something feels not right, listen to your mom gut. You’ll be surprised just how often it’s right.

And sleep when the baby sleeps. I say that one with a little bit of irony, but it’s still good advice. Sleep will be hard to come by in that first year, so if you can, sleep when the baby sleeps. Especially if you are tired. Those dirty dishes and piles of laundry can wait.